Saturday afternoon the kids and I went through their playroom for the annual pre-Christmas purge. (It’s kind of a tradition, though some years it’s more of a post-Christmas purge.) We dump all of the toys on the floor and the kids go through them and pick out a handful they want to keep. It’s an… Continue reading Good to Give
A scarcity mentality is the perspective that there’s only so much good to be had. Like a pie, or a pizza, there are only so many slices, and once they are gone, that’s it. There is no more. This mindset comes out in people in different ways; for some, it creates a hyper-competitiveness, an insatiable… Continue reading Defeating the Scarcity Mentality
If you try to make people happy all the time, then you’re not a leader – you’re a clown. – John Maxwell
I had the privilege of being part of the live event Chick-fil-A Leadercast 2013 today. Not only did I get to hear some amazing speakers (Andy Stanely, Dr. Henry Cloud, John Maxwell, Mike Krzyzewski, and more) I was inspired about my future. I came away feeling much better about what God has for me, and what I can do with the talents and gifts He’s given me.
On a personal note, the quote from Maxwell really speaks to some of the things that I’ve been learning about myself; I have always been someone who tried to take responsibility for the feelings of others. I wouldn’t say I was a people pleaser, but for the people I most love and care for, I usually go out of my way to help them as best I can. It sounds admirable until you realize that you are living your life at the mercy of other people’s emotions.
And that’s no way to live.
So I’m learning to let go of things that aren’t mine to begin with. I’m learning that people being disappointed that I didn’t fix their problem(s) doesn’t make me a bad person. I’m discovering that when I live for God and His will above all else, I am happier, healthier and above all else, free.
Maybe you’ve felt the same way in your life. If so, please know that there is freedom.
You don’t have to be the clown.