Actress Cynthia Nixon says she’s gay by choice. And a lot of gay people are mad at her for it. (Actually, Nixon now says she’s bisexual be genetics, but chooses to be in a committed same-sex relationship.)
Now, take a deep breath: this is not a post to bash homosexuals, nor is it going to be a diatribe about morals (though I will explain my frame of reference). It’s a plea for someone to help me with my understanding of the trials homosexuals face. I’ve tried to avoid writing a post about this, but I just can’t. It boggles my mind, and I’m being sincere.
As a Christian, I believe that homosexuality isn’t the norm for sexual relationships. But neither is multiple divorce, premarital sex, adultery, porn or any of the other stuff that some “Christians” do. God made us male and female to be committed to one another for a lifetime, and any violation of that falls outside of His plan. Our current cultural acceptance of some of those violations as acceptible is just our own attempts to mask our sinful preferences rather than deal honestly with a powerful subject.
And while I’m at it, you know what else is sin? Lying, cheating, lusting, envying, and just about every other disagreeable human behavior you can think of. So long story short, we’re all broken and no one is any better than anyone else.
But back to Cynthia Nixon: why should it matter if she chooses to be gay? Or bisexual? Why the uproar over her choice?
I just don’t get it.
I mean, as hard as the homosexual community has worked to gain mainstream acceptance for their members, why suddenly turn on one of their own so viciously? I get that there is a lot of hatred wrongly directed at the GLBT community, and I know that they want to protect themselves. Such mistreatment is wrong. But the way that first story reads, it’s as if anyone who chooses to be gay is somehow outside the walls of acceptable gayness.
I’m drowning here, I realize it. I’ve probably enflamed a million different groups with what I’ve typed, but I just can’t fathom why a group who works so tirelessly to gain fair treatment for all of its members is publicly slamming one of said members. As Nixon herself said, “It doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.”
If our goal as a society is truly equality for all members, then what is genetics for some and choice for others shouldn’t matter, should it?
What am I missing?
Please help me understand. I am truly struggling with this story and what it says about our society in general.