My Daughter, The Writer (I Hope)

Still love this movie, even after the 1,238th watching...

So we sat down this morning to watch a little TV and Jon immediately starts chirping for “Kas! Kas! Li-ning! LI-NING!” I grab the DVD box and slap in “Cars” a movie that he’s become a huge fan of, and one that Ella has seen, literally, at least 75 times. The movie starts and Ella makes her way over to me.

“Daddy,” she says, “can I sit in your lap?”

Now, this may seem sweet, but you have to know something right off the bat: Ella is an inveterate movie talker. She can’t help it. The girl starts asking questions or making exclamations as soon the titles show and doesn’t stop until the movie is over or you lose your freaking mind (and sometimes, she holds out for both).

When she first started doing this, is was because she was concerned about Maleficent, the evil witch in the movie “Sleeping Beauty.” She couldn’t understand why Maleficent would choose to be mean, and she wanted to know why. We settled on a combination of Mommy-issues and depression brought on by shoddy contracting on her castle. Ella seemed satisfied. But then she began to question other parts of the movie: why did the king send Sleeping Beauty away when she was a baby? Why did the good fairies fly? Who did the prince hear singing in the forest? Why did the prince fall off of his horse? What’s the sword of Truth? Why doesn’t Sleeping Beauty wear any shoes? Why do the animals steal the prince’s clothes?

And on. And on. And on.

Now, part of this is my fault. I believe that rather than banning all movies because they might have some content that Ella would find confusing we should watch them with her and talk things through. So I’ve brought this on myself (feel free to insert pitiless snark here). But I only meant for this to happen on the initial watching of a movie, when questions are natural.

I didn’t mean for it to happen EVERY TIME WE WATCH A MOVIE. Especially after I’ve answered the questions she’s asking 10,000 times. It’s exhausting, and in some ways I think this was the gateway drug for her transformation into The Negotiator.

So, going back to her request to sit in my lap, you can imagine the fear that I felt over her request. Being a daddy, however, I gave in. The questions started immediately. Questions she’s asked and I’ve answered countless times before. Questions that deal with the “whys” of the characters actions – she doesn’t want to know what color something is, she wants to know why it’s that color. She doesn’t want to know if a character’s bad choice is bad, she wants to know why the character made that choice and why the other characters reacted against it.

In short, my daughter wants to either be a psychologist or a writer, and possibly both.

And, again, this is my fault. When she first started asking questions about why something happened in general, I delved into the motives behind the actions – I started speculating on what was inherent to the character’s character that made them choose the way they did.

Ella has learned to ask those questions. Questions that only writers can answer – and that only writers would ask. She has learned that Story – narrative – is what makes a movie, or anything, work.

I guess I can take heart in the fact that my daughter and I will have a lot in common as she grows up. And I suppose, if you want to be heartless and leave me to my misery, you could say that I brought this fate upon myself. But for right now, it makes movies hard to enjoy.

But I’ll take it; there will only be so many years that my daughter will want to snuggle up in my lap and watch movies with me, wanting to know the world as a writer knows it, looking to me as if I were the expert and fount of all knowledge. One day, she’ll see me for the idiot I am, and that bond will be broken.

So for now, bring the questions, Ella. Daddy would rather have you than a moment’s peace.

Most of the time.

132 thoughts on “My Daughter, The Writer (I Hope)

  1. I really enjoyed this little story! I admire that you are able to put aside your own comfort in order to help your little one grow. You can feel your love for her leaking through your words. It is truly touching!
    -S.

  2. I can so relate! My well-intentioned 8-year-old almost killed the Sound of Music for me a few months ago … who the heck knows why the children sang all the time, or how they knew the lyrics so well after only hearing them once! ;)

    As a writer myself, I also foster the questions in my children. And as a former teacher of journalism at the college level, I know that curiosity is a dying art.

  3. “She doesn’t want to know if a character’s bad choice is bad, she wants to know why the character made that choice and why the other characters reacted against it.”

    Amazing. I hope I have that problem when my daughter is older. I can see how so many questions breaks you down, but I wouldn’t mind questions in general as long as they are good questions. Great girl. Sounds like she will be a writer some day. And a good one.

  4. yeah, sounds like she would make a good screenwriter or actress. It’s always key to question the motives behind a character’s actions if you want to make them believable.
    great post :) she sounds adorable.

  5. I have a 2-year-old son, and it seems he’s already on the path to “movie talking”. why can nemo talk, but his goldfish can’t? why was woody mean to buzz lightyear? where are they going? what are they doing? who is that? i feel your pain.

  6. I guess it is the best time for you:-) A child’s innocence and incessant queries can stump us as parents but it is their curiosity and sense of wonder that keeps them young and active:)

  7. Aww, great post! What an intelligent young lady you have there! I can’t wait until my daughter is old enough to bombard me with questions I don’t know all the asnwers too! Enjoy her while she’s little! Thank you for sharing!

    • Becky -

      I don’t know what your daughter will be like, but if she can talk by the time she’s nine months, get ready: she won’t be quiet again for years…

      Good luck with your little one and enjoy each moment.

      Jason

    • sdcountrywife -

      She’s always been most fascinated with the villains in any movie she’s ever seen, so the questions just pop out. I don’t know whether to rejoice that she doesn’t just blindly follow the princess thing, or be concerned that she’s inordinately attracted to people with a dark side. Either way, the teenage years should be fun, huh?

      Jason

  8. You are such a loving father. We may be at times annoyed by our kids but as you said after some years they may not ask us for any help or opinion. We will long to hear our children speaking to us. So let us bear with them now and start enjoying their words. Sweet blog!

    • Bindu John -

      Thanks for the nice compliment. I enjoy being a father, especially since it gives me plenty to write about. :) And right now, I have mixed feelings on the silent teenage years: some days, they seem too far away…

      Jason

    • “Sure, I always got it with me. Why?”

      My son is playing with his three Mater cars even as I type this. Ella is crawling around after him asking him to share his chocolate. The fun never stops.

  9. Ah, I remember this stage. My nephew asked the same kinds of questions around age 4. He’s now 11 and has indeed developed writerly inclinations.

    Great post, and congrats on FP-ed. Hang on the for the ride!

    Kathy

    • Kathryn -

      You weren’t kidding about the ride part – the sad thing is that I’ll now be depressed for a few days knowing that I won’t be able to match this level of traffic again…

      Jason

  10. Brilliant summation of a parent’s plight with a talkative and inquisitive child. Both of my kids (daughter, 10; son, 7) have inherited my talkativeness and all of their mother’s sense of logic. This means that a car ride or movie viewing experience can be quite a taxing experience. I, too, would rather spend time with them that enjoy some quiet time.

    Great words; even better insights. Congratulations on being Freshly Pressed.

    • Thanks for kind words, darthbergen. Not sure how I got FP’d, but it’s been a nice little boost to the blog and to my struggling writer’s ego. :)

  11. too funny – you had me laughing out loud. i think it is GREAT that she is so inquisitive and like you said – hopefully a future writer like you! I like your theories on movies…and may follow. thanks!

    • SAJ -

      Thanks for the nice words. The movie thing grew out of a desire to have a kid that could think for herself, which comes from my background as a pastor and my wife’s background as a teacher. We’d rather teach our kids through difficult moments now than shield them from stuff and watch them struggle later on. We saw it too much with other kids/families, and didn’t want to go that route.

      Just know that if you follow the trail we’re on, you’ll have to answer questions about EVERYTHING…in fact, just a minute ago, Ella asked me, “Daddy, did fairies live with the dinosaurs?”

      Jason

  12. Yeah, it might be annoying now, but it’s actually really cool… and a good start to teaching her the qualities that are going to make her an outstanding adult, like empathy and understanding. I think the second piece to the puzzle would be teaching her how to find her own answers… though I don’t know how old she is, so maybe that’s a ways off. :D But one of the things about my childhood that I think really turned me into the adult I am today (the only one in the office who knows how to use Google to find an answer, apparently :D) is that I learned at a very young age how to find the information I wanted to know in the library. I came home with stacks of thick volumes way above my reading level when I was a kid, and all it did was make me up my reading level. :D

    Great blog, congrats on getting Fresh Pressed!

    • Mackenzie -

      Thanks for the read and the compliments. Ella has already discovered the power in books – we read together most every night (well, at least one parent reads with her – it’s not always daddy’s job). In fact, we’ve been reading to her since she was 6 months old, and she asks questions about books too. Of course, she also asks questions about people in Walmart too…which is not always a good thing. :)

      Jason

  13. Oh, this is so fabulous. Ha ha! It seems like you will always be very close to Ella. ;)

    I love the inquisitive nature of small children, and Ella just makes it even better in my opinion. I answer questions all day long… I also say that I don’t have the answer to questions all day long.

    Well, working in a library and all…

    • Heather –

      I hope that I can remain close to her for her whole life. I think if I keep answering her questions, we’ll be able to accomplish that. :)

      Thanks for taking the time to read the post. I appreciate it.

      Jason

  14. The prospect of having a child ask me questions throughout an entire movie makes my head hurt. I would have to wean my kid off of this behavior or I would certainly go mad.

    Crystal

  15. This is so loving and profound, Jason. I share, as a father of a similarly inquisitive five-year old daughter, your feelings. This really touched my heart. Thanks, Anindya

  16. Hey Jason – You know, having a daughter as inquisitive as yours, isn’t a bad thing (and I know that you know that). And I also know that all those questions can drive a dad insane at times, lol. I’m a dad myself. Isn’t it amazing that as soon as you feel you’ve answered a question thoroughly, well…answers lead to more in-depth questioning. Super thought processing going on in your home!

    http://charlienitric.wordpress.com/

  17. Oh, I love this post! When she becomes an unruly teenager you can always show her this, and she will pretty much HAVE to hug you :)

  18. :) I was never a really curious child. I just watched the movie. I was mostly quiet… if everything was going my way. I wonder what races through ellas mind as she waits for you to answer her question!
    Hang in there buddy,
    Juliette

    • Juliette – pretty much this: “Why aren’t you answering my question daddy? Do you know the answer? Are you ignoring me? Why aren’t you answering my question daddy?”

      And I know this because most everything that runs through her head scrambles out of her mouth soon afterward… :)

  19. I have to opposite problem: my ten year-old needs to hear every sound of a program (even if he has already seen it) and says, “SSSHHH!!” if we let out so much as a peep.

  20. I’m afraid she may not grow out of it. I’m sixteen, and still ask constant questions. It’s gotten so bad my family will just shout “Just watch and see!” Then I’ll stop asking questions and start making comments like, “Wow, that was stupid” or “That dress is hideous”. I can’t help it.
    On the other hand, I did become a writer, so maybe movie talking is a thing writers do naturally. We do want to know what’s going on, the stuff the story leaves out. And that’s not a bad thing.

    • katblogger -

      I’ve started telling her “Watch and see!” when she’s repeating the same questions for the same movie, because she knows the answer anyway.

      Like with “Cars” she asked me, “Why does Lightning blow out his tires?” And I said, “Ella, you know the answer to that question.” And she smirked and said, “Yeah, I do. Hehehe.”

      I swear, I don’t understand little girls at all…

  21. That sounds just like my little sis (Shia) every movie we watch she asks so many questions! its ridiculous… and during the movie she asks them I just want to scream at her but I just have to calm down:)

    • Harmony -

      Sometimes it is hard to keep your temper. If I find myself getting annoyed, I usually get up and go to the bathroom. Of course, now Ella’s old enough to pause the movie and follow me, asking new questions: “Why are you going to the potty, daddy? Do you have to pee-pee? Do you have to poop?”

      I’m thinking of subletting her an apartment somewhere…

  22. you are such a good father…. when I have kids, I want to have your patience and humour with my kids! And I cracked up when you were relaying her questions up above. Keep up the good work with parenting and writing!

  23. I LOVE Ella!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I still do that during movies I don’t know why but I question everything and talk to the TV it drives Jeremy crazy!!!! Ella and I should watch a movie together sometime (we could just talk all the way through it haha)

      • I’ve never seen Tangled so we may just take you up on that :-) maybe I’ll turn the tables and ask Ella all the questions heehehe wonder what she would do….

      • She would answer the first three, and then “SHHHH!” the ever-loving crap out of you. I know because I tried it once. She seems to find other people talking during movies to be quite annoying… :)

  24. Neat story! And the fact that you’ve taught her to ask insightful questions not only sharpens yourself, but she will be much better prepared to think innovatively in life. Thanks for sharing this pleasant article!

  25. My son has always done the same thing. He’s almost 15 now, and I find myself getting so frustrated with him for continuing to do it – I often have to say to him “Hey, I haven’t seen this movie before either; I don’t know what’s going to happen!” Thanks for giving me a little insight and hopefully a little more patience too.

  26. She may never grow out of movie talking. My friends dread watching movies with me because I don’t stop talking from start to finish. It’s like an out of body experience. I hear myself doing it, watch my friends squirm uncomfortably, and even hear their groans of annoyance. Yet I keep going. It’s a sickness. And now I write. Well, it’s a blog that has a dedicated readership of 4, but still, I’m a writer. So who knows? Maybe everything will turn out ok :)

  27. LOL! Well, to me it just shows that you have a very intelligent daughter, she will not just lay down and accept things the way they are but will guestion everything… so yeah… watch out for when puberty hits…lol…

  28. I think it is brilliant your daughter is like this, my daughter does ask questions and I do not mind answering them on the pinky promise (yes that little handshake with little fingers some children do) that next time she watches it she doesnt need to ask the same questions. We all know as parents that satellite television brings so many repeats as does watching a dvd over and over again so it doesnt matter if they ask the same questions to the same film does it, like you say, you make the most of them whilst they are young. I for one have actually stopped watching much television whilst my daughter is awake, she has a thing of being quiet during most of her programmes and asking questions and talking through most of mine so I do things with her and then watch my things when she is in bed, although she did watch “Dear John” with me on Wednesday and was quiet throughout and enjoyed it with me.

  29. Curiosity keeps intelligence alive. Letting a young woman know you want to hear her and listen carefully to her — not just shushing her up — sends a powerful signal to her that a female voice is worth attention. She’ll need that self-confidence all through life.

    Great Dads know this!

    (says a female writer, author of two non-fiction books, who still asks why incessantly)

  30. A lovely tale of innocent curiosity! I was a little like this when I was younger- I was dubbed “The critic”. I found some movie plots impossible to believe so I engaged in a line of questioning for the rest of the movie, leading to a (family() ban from certain movies e.g. the ones that don’t make sense ;). Twas fine by me. Great gal you have! K

  31. You are a far more patient parent than I! I’m a grizzly guts if my kidlets talk during movies (heck even youtube videos)…granted there’s three of them talking at once and that would do any one’s head in.

    You sound like a wonderful Dad :) and even though girls do go through a, “duh Dad!” stage in those dreaded teenage years they’ll always be Daddy’s little girl and come round in the end (especially a little girl with a Daddy who gave her his undivided attention and love).

    Thanks for sharing! Beautiful post.

  32. What a great dad you are! It’s so important for kids, especially, to ask questions. Curiosity means they’re learning… As a former teacher, I will say I always appreciated most the kids who asked questions, especially the probing “why” kinds of questions that lead to good discussion. For your daughter, wondering at the motives of a movie character will (hopefully) lead to wondering about the motives of real human beings and bring not only insight but caution. That’s an awesome trait, though I can see where it might be irritating to sit through. Good luck!

  33. your daughter is a smart young lady and you are very patient dad.i seldom meet parent like you.i can relate this cute little story.i have a 4 year old daughter and i really have to be more patient listening to those questions that i really don’t know the answers… :)

  34. Aw… I bet she’s a cute little girl despite her unending flow of questions. It’s nice to know that while you’re annoyed with the fact that you can’t enjoy a movie, you are helping her understand the world more.

  35. I laughed, I cried . . . I let my daughter sit in my lap. Okay, so I made her sit in my lap (she’s nine and so over the lap thing) . . . but I’m pretty sure she enjoyed the nastalgia.

    Great Post.

  36. Love your post. I have many fond memories of watching movies with my parents. My mother would always get annoyed during particularly tense movies, because my father and I developed a habit of guessing the ends of movies far, far in advance. I can see how this would be annoying, since we were usually right!

  37. Aww, that’s sweet that you appreciate the time you are spending with your daughter. I also like how you hit the heart of what writing is, to explore the “whys” and creating your own ‘why.’

  38. It seems your daughter’s mind is still unshackled by society’s senseless or just-gulp-it conventions.

    Try to keep it that way.

  39. Aw, I know how you feel :) When my younger sister was like three months, my other sister and her little friend were in their ‘why’-fase. ‘Why doesn’t she have theeth?’ ‘Why doesn’t she has hair?’ ‘Why is she drooling so much?’ I ended up with ‘WELL THAT’S JUST BECAUSE SHE DOES’ :)

  40. People who trouble you the most, are the one’s you miss most.(does not necessarily apply for family members)

    You two have a great bond, cheers :-)

  41. I think that is SO cute. My little sister-Shia- is one of those ‘questioners’. She’s 5 and is always wanting to know exactly what’s going on. And when the movie’s finally over the family gets to hear her interpretation of it. It’s actually a really funny and interesting sharing time. I’m always surprised at what goes through her head. We don’t give little ones enough credit. lol

  42. Very cool!
    My daughter does this too.. but after the film. During she’s quiet as a mouse. I hope we’ll watch a lot of movies together in the future because her brother and mother talk all the way through them too. Just to catch up ;)

    Cheers,

    Jon

  43. Good stuff, honestly who wouldn’t want there lil baby girl asking to sit in you’re lap to watch a movie. . . Ex-nay all the questions (lol). But hey, I’d rather her ask me every question she has rather than to ask one of the random friends.

  44. Aww, she sounds adorable~ She’s definitely showing promise in the writing and psychology fields–if she does become a writer in the future, she’ll definitely be a smart one with well-developed characters.

    ‘Til then, good luck with the movies!

  45. In time, you can ask her to “save questions for the end,” but for now, you can learn a lot about how she thinks and feels about the characters by turning her question, “Why do you think she did that?” But with all the talk of motive, I wonder if she’ll be an actress or an attorney.

    Congratulations on FP, best wishes

  46. Some of those are pretty heavy questions for a little kid to be asking, especially about Disney movies! But learning to ask questions, and hopefully answer them for herself someday, is a great thing for a kid, and she’s lucky to have someone who’s willing to foster that inquisitive nature instead of stifling it.

  47. Little back story… I’m not a writer, I’m a math teacher and I’m taking an online class right now that requires me to do a little research with blogs. I am to read one and comment on it and get familiar with the process…so here I am very new to the whole idea (I’m old school I guess). But math teacher aside, I’m a proud parent of a two year old, well, almost three year old boy. My son is an addict of all movies. Yes, all movies, and at his age he is already developing into the inquisitive character that your daughter is. I found your writing touching because most days I come home frazzled from dealing with teenagers who hate math to a son who on average wants to watch 10 movies a night, ask a hundred questions per 20 minutes of viewing, repeating the questions over and over and over until I answer him. (There is no ignoring this child or saying “just because” or else he will continue to work that last raw nerve!) and then finds every excuse to stay up. Mommy, I need milk, I need water, I need “hush baby”, I need a book, I need the cat, I need my pacie, I need momma’s bed, I need…. But what you said in the end particularly struck me, because as a single mom, there are times when I just want that quiet to sit down and work on my online classes or research something for class. But then I realize, he will grow up will be too big to cuddle, too cool to care and eventually grown and gone. Thank you for the reminder to cherish every painstaking moment, because, one day we won’t have that…

  48. sweet. i have a nephew like her, always asking questions. the questions he can come up with are hard to associate with his three years of age. and i envy him for that. i can’t help but wonder if ever i had the chance to be like that when i was a kid, or be like that now. Ella has a loong way to go but heck, bright future awaits. ;)

  49. This is really cute. you seem like a wonderful dad. :)

    When she is older she is going to be one of those annoying friends I have who ask me questions like, “who’s he?” and I am like, “How do I know it’s the first time I have watched it too”.

    Great post.
    Jessie.

  50. Children today are really smart and good thing Ella got you to guide her no matter how exhausting.

    God bless you for being a loving father. You’re right that she has so much potential, from Negotiator, Writer, Psychologist, and so much more!

    Have a great time with your family. :)

  51. Haven’t watched that many movies with kids. But I understand your problems. Mine is with grown-up movie watchers. As long as I can remember, my father has been an inveterate movie-ending-guesser. When he’s a watching a movie for the first time, he can’t stop asking us what happens in the end, or guessing out loud. It’s so annoying. I grow up and get married and guess what…My husband: “So are they going to get married?” “Is she going to regret turning him down?” “Who wins in the end?”
    JUST WATCH THE MOVIE! I snarl.

  52. I remember I was exactly the same when I was a child. I was so talkative and I was asking so many questions, that in the end my parents preferred to leave me alone during watching the films…
    And although Im older now, Im still the loudest person, who’s talking all the time :)

  53. Wow. I have one of those. He does.not.stop.asking.questions. It gets really crazy sometimes and could be at times he is afraid or confused and you are right how you dealt with the situation. I should try to answer and not hush him. I don’t really need to watch the animated stuff anyhow- I think I can live without it. I can’t help it. They make such good animated movies nowadays, I wanna see all of them :)

    Good luck with a writer girl. That can be intense but for good reason. Congrats on FP.

  54. Your daughter sounds like me. I asked way too much questions to my siblings (parents worked until late every day) and to them I was this (very) annoying little sister. And be very patient, she’ll still ask you questions until she’s in her 30s. Good luck!

  55. I know why you got Freshly Pressed! Great post. I think Ella has inspired me to ask more questions!
    I really wish I was that questioning about everything! It would probably improve my writing–and it would get me think about a lot of things. I like thinking–Ella has given me food for thought (via you writing this great post :) ).
    I’ll work on my questioning skills!

    • corzgalore -

      Apparently you and Ella aren’t alone. I guess the trick is finding people who love you enough to let you talk away…

      Thanks for reading!

      Jason

  56. Too funny. I’m sure there are many times where you are thinking “I just don’t know the answer”. Or “wait and see”. At least you have a little girl to crawl into your lap. Nothing beats that.

  57. these are the joys of fatherhood . my son is 5 and he too never stops asking questions. they are full of curiosity, full of wonder . these are the times that they are all over you and always asking your assistance for just about anything. It can be exhausting but they are just too adorable to resist. thanks for sharing.

  58. I can totally relate to this, but my oldest son is now 16, and recently, we started watching The Godfather trilogy! (This may seem inappropriate, but he is playing a gangster in the high school’s production of Guys and Dolls, so I am calling it research.)I can’t help but be a movie talker when it comes to The Godfather . . .he may need to know why Lucca Brazie is so important, why Sonny can never be boss, why the movie director had a severed horsehead in his bed. . . What a good mother I am!

    • I think 16 is old enough for “The Godfather” and I agree you’re a good mother – unless you show him “The Godfather Three”. Then you’re guilty of a crime against humanity… :)

  59. Love it while it lasts!

    My daughters are 28 and 26 and while they seem to have acquired versions of my veering sense of humour (which I take as a great compliment), saying cute things and giving hugs to Dad are, regrettably, no longer “cool”!

    Well done on the Freshly Pressed status.

    Alfie

  60. Your daughter reminds me of my little brother and I can imagine the pain you’re going through. My dad’s good friend came over once and accepted my brother’s (who was at the time 4 or 5 years old) request to read ‘The Wizard of Oz’ with him. Unfortunately for our friend, my brother bombarded his first question at the first page, “What happens in a cyclone? And why does the cyclone picks up only Dorothy’s house and nothing else?” (The book has a picture of Dorothy’s house flying in the tornado but everything is still standing safely on the ground). And of course, the questions did not stop there.

    My 8 years old brother is now an science fiction writer with his short stories evolving around aliens and space travel (you can read his story ‘Aliens in Jupiter’ here: http://ahmadalikarim.wordpress.com/2010/05/07/aliens-from-jupiter/ He has written other stories in his blog too). Thanks to his curious nature, he knows a lot more on everything than others of his age.

    I believe you have a very intelligent daughter who might grow up to be a very successful writer :)

  61. A delightful post! It sounds like your inquisitive daughter will be great at whatever she chooses to do. Asking those “Why” questions, and challenging herself to understand they underpinnings of the story is an attribute that will serve her well for years to come.
    You should be very proud!

  62. “One day, she’ll see me for the idiot I am, and that bond will be broken.”

    I remember that day.

    My parents, also, endured those painful, movie-watching years.. I was always, naturally, inquisitive, and when knowledge was held in suspense – I wanted to know WHAT was going on, and what was GOING to happen — I wanted to know that everything would be okay, and that my favorite character(s) wouldn’t die. I was hushed, yelled at, and, occasionally, answered.

    Aun Aqui

  63. I’m not someone who is patient enough to be bombarded with the same questions over and over again. I can’t imagine how frustrated I am if this happens to me. You sure a very good parent. Two thumbs up.

    If I have a child someday, I will ask some suggestions from you. Hahhaha

    Nice post!

  64. This is a great post Jason! It is great to see children being inspired creatively through films! It is crazy to think how much I learned from the classic Disney films that I grew up on! I bet your daughter is excited for Cars 2! Thanks for the good read!
    -Jason McNeely
    jasondmcneely.wordpress.com

  65. I am one to analyze a lot of what I see and hear. I ask myself some of the same questions your daughter asks you. I love to read and watch movies. I then go and write about how each made me feel and some of my analytical thoughts in a journal. I think you answering her questions will give her a sense of self worth. Later when she is a teenager fighting with self esteem issues, I believe you can rest assured she will come out on top. You helped her see she is worth while. And coming from someone who grew up without a father, I am sure she will cherish this bond with you. She will feel she has a confidant who will always be willing to listen. And in a women’s life, that is very important.

    • Thanks, Tess. I appreciate your candor about your own thought process, and of your growing up without a dad. My goal with Ella has always been to make sure she knows that she has a voice and the ability to use it. I may not always be the greatest dad on the planet, but I feel strongly that my daughter needs to grow up being affirmed, encouraged and challenged to be herself, no matter what others may think.

      And I hope to hope that she will always feel that she can confide in me whenever she needs. :)

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